As a relationship expert, I’ve seen it all. The highs, the lows, the rollercoaster of emotions, and of course, the very real issue of “what do we do tonight?”
You know what I’m talking about—those nights when you’re both on the couch, scrolling through Netflix, aimlessly hoping for some divine intervention to save you from yet another round of mindless TV-watching.
But here’s the thing: couples who read together stay together (okay, I might’ve made that up, but it could be true!).
Reading books together can be a fun, intimate way to deepen your connection, explore new ideas, and spark conversations that go beyond your usual “What’s for dinner?”
So, grab a cozy blanket, make some popcorn (or wine, no judgment here), and dive into these 10 books that are perfect for you and your spouse.
10 Books to Read with Your Spouse
1. The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Let’s kick things off with a classic. You’ve probably heard about The 5 Love Languages, but have you really read it?
This book has been a game-changer for countless couples, and for good reason. It helps you understand how you and your spouse give and receive love, and trust me, knowing this stuff is crucial for avoiding misunderstandings and feeling emotionally supported.
Are you a “Words of Affirmation” kind of person, or do you thrive on “Physical Touch”? Understanding your differences can make a world of difference. Plus, it’s a fun, insightful read that’s easy to discuss as a couple.
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2. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
If you want to really understand the science behind relationships, John Gottman is your guy. This book is packed with research-based insights, tips, and practical strategies to help strengthen your relationship.
It’s like relationship therapy, but in book form, and you don’t even have to leave your living room. The best part? It’s not all theory.
There are plenty of exercises in this book that you and your spouse can do together to improve communication, conflict resolution, and intimacy. Trust me, it’s worth the read.
3. The Rosie Project by Graeme Simsion
Okay, let’s take a little detour into fiction. If you and your spouse are looking for something light, quirky, and fun, The Rosie Project is the perfect pick.
The story follows Don Tillman, a brilliant but socially awkward genetics professor, as he embarks on a journey to find a wife.
The catch? He creates a rigid questionnaire to filter out unsuitable candidates, but of course, things don’t go according to plan.
It’s funny, heartwarming, and will make you both appreciate the chaos that love can bring. It’s the perfect book to spark laughs and great conversations with your spouse about your own quirky relationship dynamics.
4. Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
If you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do in relationships (and why your spouse seems to have a totally different approach), Attached is a must-read.
This book dives into the science of adult attachment and explores how your attachment style affects the way you connect with your partner.
Are you an anxious type? Maybe your spouse is more avoidant? Understanding each other’s attachment styles can lead to a more secure, understanding relationship. It’s eye-opening, enlightening, and can spark some really meaningful discussions between the two of you.
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5. The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
If you’re looking for a story that inspires both of you to follow your dreams and take risks together, The Alchemist is the perfect book.
The tale of Santiago, a young shepherd who goes on a journey to find his personal legend, is a beautiful and mystical reminder that the journey itself is just as important as the destination.
It’s one of those books that makes you reflect on your own life, your dreams, and what truly matters to you as a couple.
Plus, it’s short enough that you’ll finish it in a few cozy nights of reading. Pack up your metaphorical bags, and prepare for a thought-provoking adventure together.
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6. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
Esther Perel is a relationship guru who’s got all the answers when it comes to keeping the spark alive in a long-term relationship.
Mating in Captivity tackles the tricky subject of desire and intimacy in relationships, especially when life’s busy routine gets in the way. Perel explores the tension between love and desire, and how to reignite that passion.
It’s not a typical “how to” book—it’s much deeper, and that’s why it’s so great for couples who are looking to dive into the complexities of their relationship.
Whether you’re newlyweds or have been married for years, this one will get your conversations sizzling in a whole new way.
7. Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert
Not every book on this list is about improving your relationship in a traditional sense. Big Magic is a powerful read for couples who want to explore their creative sides together.
Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love, offers a motivational approach to living a creative life and unlocking your potential.
It’s all about finding the courage to pursue your passions without fear of failure. If you and your spouse have ever wanted to start a project together (a small business, a blog, a YouTube channel—sky’s the limit), this book can provide the perfect spark of inspiration.
8. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus by John Gray
Now, let’s get real. If you’ve ever wondered why your spouse seems to speak a completely different language (sometimes literally), Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus might just offer the explanation.
This book delves into the inherent differences between men and women and gives practical advice on how to navigate them.
While it can be a little dated at times, the core ideas about communication, emotional needs, and problem-solving are still spot on.
It’s the kind of book that will make you nod along in agreement (and occasionally laugh at how true some of it is).
9. The Couple’s Therapy Workbook: 30 Guided Conversations to Rebuild Trust, Connect, and Communicate Better by Kathleen Mates-Youngman
If you’re looking for something practical and interactive, The Couple’s Therapy Workbook is a great resource.
This workbook is full of exercises designed to improve communication, build trust, and strengthen your emotional connection.
It’s not a book you’ll read in one go—it’s something you can go through together at your own pace, working through each exercise and checking in on your progress.
It’s like having your own therapist at home, but without the awkward silences. Perfect for couples who enjoy being hands-on in their relationship improvement efforts.
10. The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin
To wrap up this list, let’s talk about The Happiness Project. This book is all about finding more joy in your everyday life by making small, intentional changes.
Gretchen Rubin took a year to focus on different aspects of her life, from relationships to work to health, and documented her journey in this insightful book.
It’s an easy, feel-good read that will have you and your spouse reflecting on what makes both of you happy—and how you can create more of that in your life together. It’s practical, inspiring, and perfect for couples who want to live a more fulfilling life side by side.
Final Thoughts
Reading together can become a shared adventure that strengthens your bond and opens up new avenues for growth.
Whether you’re laughing through a quirky novel, working on communication skills, or exploring new ways to deepen your intimacy, these 10 books will help bring you and your spouse closer.
And let’s face it, when you’re laughing, learning, and growing together, isn’t that the ultimate goal?
So, the next time you find yourself asking, “What should we do tonight?”—forget Netflix. Pick up one of these books, snuggle up, and enjoy the magical, messy, and beautiful journey of being in a relationship
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